tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798694018214858665.post1636070931248789983..comments2023-09-07T05:56:34.132-07:00Comments on Attaching Hearts: Unattached ParentsSimply Momshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17929798173026685014noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798694018214858665.post-7803038423114921172014-04-01T20:56:03.654-07:002014-04-01T20:56:03.654-07:00As believers...we know that the moment we become t...As believers...we know that the moment we become the parents of a child...is the moment we embark on a life long journey as the parents of that child. <br /><br /><br />Dawn Simply Momshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17929798173026685014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798694018214858665.post-6231198785063970982008-07-22T08:49:00.000-07:002008-07-22T08:49:00.000-07:00It's so true that whatever the outcome, the Lord i...It's so true that whatever the outcome, the Lord is still good and has still conquered the grave.Simply Momshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17929798173026685014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798694018214858665.post-80415207596538136272008-07-22T08:45:00.000-07:002008-07-22T08:45:00.000-07:00Our kids didn't get this way by "traditional" mean...Our kids didn't get this way by "traditional" means and as such need a different approach and re-training, if you will. Some RAD kids do not improve; it's the dark side of adoption no one talks about openly. God will prevail and every story has a purpose; whether it ends in full healing, partial healing, resignation, or disruption.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798694018214858665.post-43512363367846629582008-07-21T20:58:00.000-07:002008-07-21T20:58:00.000-07:00Hi Cara, I want to add too, that when you are goin...Hi Cara, <BR/>I want to add too, that when you are going through it, you will notice it. It will feel manipulative and forced. I will a couple of other good books, The Connected Child & The Whole Life Adoption Book to the list. Also, I think a good quick list is on http://a4everfamily.org/Simply Momshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17929798173026685014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798694018214858665.post-3654043149005445412008-07-21T16:53:00.000-07:002008-07-21T16:53:00.000-07:00Most of the tell tale signs were there....no eye c...Most of the tell tale signs were there....no eye contact, incessant chatter...preferring others/strangers over us...lack of impulse control...crazy lying...lack of cause and effect thinking...etc.<BR/><BR/>Here's what I do...I read info... (much of the time on websites) and usually know quickly if the advice being offered/techniques being suggested are not for me. If you do not have the gift of discernment....run it by someone whom you trust...who does. I am not into psychology either...and much has seeped into the church. Man made ideas will not produce the fruit we are looking for long term. I suggest you start with Shepherding a Child's Heart by Tedd Tripp. Although it does not deal w/RAD specifically....there is much good advice and solid wisdom w/in it's pages. Also, check our Booklist...not necessarily written by Christ followers....but those listed have been read and much can be gleaned from them as well. Take what works and throw the rest out the window. The Lord will reveal what is of Him and what isn't.Simply Momshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17929798173026685014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798694018214858665.post-88069881524532265402008-07-21T16:09:00.000-07:002008-07-21T16:09:00.000-07:00Just curious... When you say the symptoms were th...Just curious... When you say the symptoms were there in the early months- What are some "clues" one should be looking for? <BR/><BR/>I hope that's not too basic a question... You can just tell me to go read a book on attachment ;), but if you do that would you please direct me to one that is suitable to a serious follower of Christ? (less psychology based)CGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12159023141201847513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798694018214858665.post-4219819941083011492008-07-21T09:20:00.000-07:002008-07-21T09:20:00.000-07:00Kathy, it's nearly impossible and it's so true tha...Kathy, it's nearly impossible and it's so true that it is an act of the will most days. My waking prayer each morning is that..... today it comes naturally.Simply Momshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17929798173026685014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798694018214858665.post-7562154044803169652008-07-21T07:19:00.000-07:002008-07-21T07:19:00.000-07:00Very true. But it's also very hard to love the chi...Very true. But it's also very hard to love the child who literally spits in your face, lies about you, basically hates you. The same child who is Mr. Charming to everyone else. Sometimes it is really an act of will to respond the right way to the behaviors.Kathy Casselhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02886511489428522492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798694018214858665.post-39932235562698809392008-07-20T20:29:00.000-07:002008-07-20T20:29:00.000-07:00I am a foster/adoptive mom, just awakening to the ...I am a foster/adoptive mom, just awakening to the RAD in our family. The more I read, the more I see our son. Oh how I cry out that he will be healed, that he can know a complete love. I will continue to read and seek help from moms like you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-798694018214858665.post-65561316440311178772008-07-20T13:53:00.000-07:002008-07-20T13:53:00.000-07:00I think deep down we love them with all our hearts...I think deep down we love them with all our hearts. Otherwise we would not keep trying and it would not twist our hearts.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05811548306583601019noreply@blogger.com