4 Things

this article.

No lie...when you are rejected by your child...it breaks your heart into a million pieces.  It's so easy to build walls around the shattered mess in order to protect yourself from more wounds.

So easy.

But not okay.

If you go back and dig into this blog...you'll find posts that list other things to do.  Not sure where...back there somewhere.   I've been at this for a long time.

Meeting new folks going through similar struggles that we've been through keeps me blogging.

The unhealed and broken stuff in our own family keeps me blogging.

My kids reading this blog keeps me blogging. 

The growth and healing that has taken place keeps me blogging.

Hope keeps me blogging.

The fact that I need reminders keeps me blogging.

He Is Able

This brings me so much peace.  Only because I know that when I am not able to do it,  when I want to give up, when I have reached my limit, when I have no more strength or motivation,   when I am afraid....HE is stronger. 

When I turn to face HIM...when I call out to HIM...HE is there and He is able. 

Run Into It

Our family has lived through an experience in our circle of relationships which has deepened our understanding of what it actually means to be "family." 

Sadly, what we see more than we'd like to ...are Christians walking what is sometimes a very difficult road in the flesh rather than in the Spirit.  Been there ourselves.  Done that ourselves.  

Everyone sees it.  It's not like non repentant sinning Christians are hiding anything.  At least not for long they aren't.


I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. 

Psalm 27:13
 
 
This. 


"I cannot help but think of the slew of adoptive parents--so many of whom claim to be Christians--that I have encountered over the years that reject and dismiss those whom they call "angry adoptees." 

And I think of them as I share these words, hoping that perhaps they will stumble across my words, and read them with the realization that these words could one day be the very words of their own children. And I hope that they will realize that how they choose to respond in such moments of intense emotion means everything.

To realize that it's not about them.

And that it never was to begin with.

So, please, let go of yourself and love your child without condition (who will grow to become an adult no matter what you do) through the rage and anger, the hurt and pain, the questions and doubts.

Don't fear it.

Don't run from it.

Run into it. With arms wide open."

 

Threats, accusations, manipulation and guilt trips won't change the heart of your family members.
Posted by Paul David Tripp on Tuesday, 5 April 2016