Friday, October 31, 2014
Thursday, October 30, 2014
I know I have talked about apathy before.
Sometimes you need a little reminder.
This week I got a call from a friend. Humbly and transparently...she shared the struggles she is currently having with her child.
We talked for a while and I shared my struggles with her.
We processed out loud together.
What would the Lord have us do?
Well...He would have us treat our children the way we ourselves would want to be treated.
At the very least...He would have us treat them as our neighbors.
More precisely...He would have us love them sacrificially.
He would have us love them in His strength...not our own.
He would help us to see their needs.
To see past their behaviors ...and into their hearts.
He would have us address their hearts.
To pursue their hearts.
A few nights later...I received this. And my heart was so happy.
If you've been unkind...repent.
Wednesday, October 29, 2014
I was abandoned. Uncared for. Abused. But then love came around and I've got a safe place. I'm with a loving family who wants me and loves me. I think I am and I know I am. I struggle with taking that for granted. The anger. The lashing out. I always come around but then sometimes it flips back. (re: the character) She's a lovely and beautiful girl. She has a strong heart.
People like me need to be shown what love feels like.
My past does not define me either. But to be honest...it's sometimes a stumbling block.
I think this is a powerful and moving film. It should be shared. It's bold. It's striking.
Friday, October 24, 2014
Tuesday, October 7, 2014
This one goes out to one whom I love...
Monday, October 6, 2014
Friday, October 3, 2014
How Adoption Preaches the Gospel and Why We Must Let It
I think I might understand a little...the parents who get somewhat twisted or even very upset with people who fumble through adoption related interactions in less than ideal ways.
They are prideful.
They think highly of themselves during these moments.
They think they are doing right by protecting their kids from "stupid/ignorant/racist/mean-spirited/close-minded" people when they offer snarky responses or...just polite enough responses...and maybe once in a blue moon...they are.
But most of the time...it is them...the twisted parents who need correcting.
I think maybe the core of the twistedness has to do with an issue of identity.
Either the parent is struggling with their own identity in this whole adoption story....
...or they are SO AFRAID that their child will struggle with it that anything which might be a trigger...is given more power than it actually deserves or warrants.
The trigger might not even be a trigger for the kid...but it sure as heCk might be one for the twisted parent.
Walk with the Lord humbly.
Our kids are watching us.
A lot of people are watching us.
We are Christ's ambassadors here on Earth.
When someone fumbles...and asks some question awkwardly cuz your kid has different shaped eyes or something...
...smile and think...for such a time as this.
What a great opportunity to say..." I know...I know...I barely look anything like the Lord either...yet He calls me His own." then "Our family is a picture...flawed as it may be...of that very grace."
We have two choices.
We can either leave them smelling like something unpleasant...or we can leave them smelling like something attractive.
We ALL Smell.
What's your fragrance?
And here's another thing...
...if you think that your kid's adoption is natural...meaning anything other than supernatural...you might be tempted into thinking your own adoption into the Lord's household is natural too.