Actress talks about attachment struggles.
Monday, April 9, 2012
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Childhood Symptoms
*Superficially charming and engaging, particularly around strangers or those who they feel they can manipulate
*Indiscriminate affection, often to strangers; but not affectionate on parent's terms
*Problems making eye contact, except when angry or lying
*A severe need to control everything and everyone, worsens as child gets older
*Hypervigilant
*Hyperactive, yet lazy in performing tasks
*Argumentative, often over silly or insignificant things
*Frequent tantrums or rage, often over trivial issues
*Demanding or clingy, often at inappropriate times
*Trouble understanding cause and effect
*Poor impulse control
*Lacks morals and values
*Little or no empathy; often have not developed a conscience
*Cruelty to animals
*Lying for no apparent reason
*False allegations of abuse
*Destructive to property or self
*Stealing
*Constant chatter, nonsense questions
*Abnormal speech patterns
*Developmental/learning delays
*Fascination with fire/blood/gore; will usually make the bad choice
*Problems with food; either hoarding or refusing
*Concerned with details but ignoring main issues
*Few or no long term friends; tend to be loners
*Attitude of entitlement or self importance
*Sneaks things without permission even if she/he could have them by asking
*Triangulation of adults; pitting one against the other
*A darkness behind eyes when raging
*Parents appear to be overcontrolling
Books for Parents
- Attaching in Adoption by Deborah D. Gray
- Disconnected Kids by Robert Milillo
- Sensational Kids by Lucy Jane Miller
- Shepherding A Child's Heart by Tedd Tripp
- The Connected Child by Dr. Purvis
- The Whole Life Adoption Book by Jayne E. Schooler
- Toddler Adoption, The Weaver's Craft by Mary Hopkins-Best
Books for Kids
- Let's Talk About It : Adoption by Fred Rogers
- Adopted and Loved Forever
- Jin Woo
- Little Miss Spider
- Borya And The Burps
- I Love You Like Crazy Cakes
- Tell Me Again About The Night I Was Born
- Stuart Little
Films
- Bella
- Dan In Real Life
- Inn of The Seventh Happiness
- Martian Child
- Stuart Little
- The Italian
Not for Us, But for You to Know the Others Near You for Support
1 comments:
Interesting. Thanks for sharing.
Great she talked about it but if she was so honest, the writer certainly didn't expound any did he? Impossible for the writer to "get it" but I find it so typical that the writer mentions this could happen with a biological mother/daughter relationship.
"I’m sure Katherine’s not the only adopted mother (or biological mother who just didn’t feel that “maternal bond” instantly) who’s felt this way, so it’s great of her to speak out about it and be so honest about it!"
If Katherine was completely honest and the writer knew anything about attachment issues in adopted children he likely wouldn't have put the biological mother/daughter comparison in the article.
Not saying it's not possible for a biological mother/daughter to have bonding issues but we as parents of children with RAD know, the attachment difficulties and the rejection we experience from our adopted children is incomparable to anything else.
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