I'm thinking again about a very real reality which may be a fact in many of our lives.
I know some of us out there are tempted to think that our kids have been dreaming of us since ages past...that we (their knight in shining armor parents) are their dreams come true. They have been waiting for us to sweep into their less than ideal situations and swoop them up into our loving embraces. Haven't they?
Not necessarily so.
Many have been dreaming of others. Dreaming other dreams. Dreams which might not have included us. GASP!!!!!!!!!!
Put it this way....
Once upon a time, there was a Princess who had deep down memories of a long lost Prince whom she had met during her youth. She thinks of him often...in fact, every minute of every day he enters some part of her existence consciously or unconsciously. He might be a blur...he might be crystal clear....but he is there....always there in her heart and in her dreams (good and bad.) One day...her Prince will come.
Out of the blue...another Prince extends his hand. He is kind, He is handsome. He means her well and has been waiting a long time to find his one and only true Princess.
The Princess is heartsick. Her dreams....suddenly they are confused. What is to become of her dreams? Do they simply disappear? Do they shift?
What a predicament the Princess finds herself in. A predicament thrust upon her. Not of her own choosing. If she showed no signs of trouble in releasing her previously held dreams...we...each one of us....would take a second glance and wonder at her peculiarity.
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Dreams
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7 comments:
That is very true. And we all know how expectations play a huge role in any relationship. Thanks for sharing that perspective.
I like the way you put it in story format as if told by a child.
Perhaps your own insecurities have pushed others away..........
Been there, seen it and know it first hand.....
Anonymous:
Not sure what you mean? Perhaps you might explain.
I think that my boys had no dreams. They only had nightmares. But if they did have dreams it may have been for something far different than me. I'm quirky : )
But now, Brenda...they will see that you are their unknown dreams come true :)
Oh, I hope you didn't read too much into my statement. I think that when we become parents - either biologically or through adoption - we have our own dreams about what that will look like. We don't always see "our dreams" realized either and there is a period, or a lifetime, of mourning that instills in our hearts. Sometimes, it's not the kids, but US that need the push to change.
It's not about US, but sometimes the pressure of doing the right thing puts all of the pressure in that very place. (and sometimes.....we too matter!)
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